Tuesday, July 26, 2011

When you Least Expect it

So I posted that ad on Craigslist not too long ago and the emails started pouring in almost instantly.  I met four of the guys.  Guy number 1, 28, M is a really great friend to have, as I said in my most recent post.  Guy number 2, 24, T did not understand strictly platonic, and I emailed him about that, and he never replied, so he's out of the picture now.  Guy number 3, 18, K is a lot like my brother, so much so that I wouldn't consider dating him.  It would be way too weird.  I've made my feelings about that very clear to him, and he has agreed to just be friends.  And that brings me to guy number 4, 26, G.  Allow me to preface this by saying that I never had any intention of dating anyone I might meet because of my Craigslist ad.

The first time we met, he took me to Starbucks and we talked, then I had him over and cooked him chicken and pasta.  We watched The Big Bang Theory and Bad Teacher and didn't touch each other at all.  I have been impulsive in the past, and I needed to think it through before I did anything.  Not touching G was very difficult, but I managed with just a hug as he left.  And then it was just me and my thoughts.  The guy is 26.  I am 19.  We're at entirely different points in our lives.  I just dropped out of school and he's a grad student.  I am searching for a job, and he has one as a counselor for a non-profit.  He has had more than 20 girlfriends in the past, and I have never had a boyfriend.  I met him on Craigslist.  What would my parents think? He's 7 years older than me. What would my parents think? He's not a Christian. What would my parents think?  He's at an age where marriage is not a ridiculous notion, and I have never had a boyfriend.  He has OCD, just like I do.  He's cute and funny and I find it easy to relate to the things he says.  He thinks that I'm beautiful/cute/hot/sexy despite (or perhaps because of) my geeky awkwardness.  He comes from a rich family, but he doesn't look down on me because I am poor.  I have a friend who likes to say that someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach is great and all, but he really wants someone who gives him eagles in his stomach.  G gives me eagles, plain and simple as that.  Big, swooping, soaring and wheeling eagles.  He lives ten minutes away from me.  He installed Skype yesterday, just for me, and we talked for a bit.  Then he drove over here at midnight so he could kiss me.  It was raining, but neither one of us cared.  The kissing was pretty magical.  I don't care if I sound cheesy, but it was.  It felt so right.  Then he walked me to my door and we kissed for a bit more.  He said something funny and we both started laughing uncontrollably.  Ever try kissing someone when you're both laughing? Not easy at all.  We managed to get it under control for one last kiss, and then he had to go, because he had work in the morning.  When he got back to his house, he told me on Skype that I am a surprisingly amazing kisser.  (Well, he didn't say surprisingly, but I know that's what he meant.)  He asked if that was really me kissing him, and then he said he would drive to anywhere just to kiss me once.  We will be seeing one another again tonight.  We live ten minutes apart, and neither one of us can resist the other, so it would be nearly impossible for us not to see each other tonight.  I can hardly wait until I see him again, and I think these stomach eagles are planning to stay for quite a while.

So this has all been a big ad for Craigslist.  Just kidding, but Craigslist has worked for me so far.  I found an apartment, I found two friends, and now I found the guy who will most likely be my first boyfriend.  And honestly, I have never been more excited in my entire life.


  1. Wowww!!! Crazy how things work, isn't it? That's amazing to have found someone like that.

    However (and I'm afraid there is a however) just... be careful, kay? I mean... he's had over 20 gfs and he's 7 years older than you. This doesn't mean he's automatically a bag of sleeze! BUT. It does mean... that if he is a guy full of sleeze in bags, he's likely VERY experienced at it.

    'Course, I haven't met him. I really can't say anything anyway... I'm 18 and like a guy who's 5 years my senior - and he's full of awesome, not sleeze. Or so I think. =P But do pay attention to the people you do know who meet him: friends, acquaintances, parents (if they can get past the other things which you've already identified might make them wary). Watch yourself, listen to others, guard your heart... and have a wonderful time. =)

  2. Very good advice. I will take all of that stuff into account. We've agreed to take things very slowly, and I will be careful.


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