Wednesday, October 8, 2014

A Tough Post: Telling the Whole Story

The only reason I'm posting this is I hope it will help even one person to have the courage to do what I didn't.  In May of 2012 I quit a job because of sexual harassment.  And I shared most of the story, but not all of it.  The thing that I didn't share is that I didn't have the courage to tell him no or to say stop.  I was able to get up and walk to a different part of the room but I couldn't say anything.

And apparently it took me over two years to admit that.  I lied to my mom when I told her what happened to me, and I never lie.  I told her that I told him to stop, but I didn't.  I wanted to, but I couldn't.  Because as my boss, he was in a position of power and he knew it.  He knew how badly I needed a job and how long I had to search before he hired me (two years).  I was small and timid and did as I was told.  I didn't want to lose my only source of income over what (at first I convinced myself) was just me misinterpreting the situation.

I didn't say no or stop but I did do something very difficult and very important.  I told somebody what was happening.  I wasn't strong enough to get myself out of the situation, but with G's help I did.

I felt like I needed to write this post because this afternoon I stumbled upon Youtube videos about Sam Pepper and others.  Serious accusations have been made against them recently.  And regardless of whether or not these crimes actually happened (I am not saying whether I think they did or not), people in power do take advantage of people they have power over.  Whether it's a celebrity and a fan, a boss and an employee, or some other powerful person doesn't matter.  The truth is that it happens.  Just because someone is in a position of power over you doesn't mean they're better than you.  It can be really hard to say no.  Maybe you don't want to hurt their feelings or appear rude.  Maybe you don't want to end a relationship.  But you are worth it.  You deserve to be happy and you don't deserve to feel uncomfortable. Whether you believe it or not.  Because I may not know you, but I do know that you're amazing.  And you're fascinating.  And I want you to have a happy life.

I wish I had the courage to say no.  But I didn't.  I hope that you do.

Friday, October 3, 2014

Friday Fashion: Fall Outfit Ideas

It's no secret that I love Fall.  One of my favorite things about Fall is the fashion.  These outfits embody all of my favorite parts of Fall fashion: layering, boots, hats, olive green, dark red, and cozy knits.  I would love to wear all of the following outfits!  For now I'll just be happy with the awesome studded ankle boots I got for $5 a few days ago.

Aren't they amazing?!

Can you not get enough of Fall fashion either? (That sentence doesn't sound right now matter how I phrase it.  Oh well.)  Well, stay tuned for Part 2 coming next week!  And if you don't want to wait until then, stop by my Falling for Fashion treasury on Etsy.  It's full of amazing handmade fashion by super talented makers.

And if you're looking for some one of a kind jewelry to complete your Fall outfits, check out the new listings in my Etsy shop.

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Being Sick is Hard to do

photo via MorgueFile because I didn't think to take a picture of my tea
I abruptly came down with a harsh cold/flu/whatever two weeks ago on Thursday.  It took me 9 days to shake off the delirium that accompanied my low fever and be able to go back to work.  During that time I slept about 12-16 hours each night, watched Netflix, took that gross gluten-free cough syrup, drank tea, napped, had crazy fever dreams, made outfits on Polyvore because the fever was accompanied by creative inspiration, and ate soup.  I went back to work on Sunday and then I worked today and after coming home from work I got a really bad sore throat but only on the right side.  I have a swollen tonsil on that side, so now I'm adding gargling warm salt water to my routine.  With all that being said I seriously need to add that I haven't had a cold/flu/whatever (as far as I can remember anyway) for this whole year!  And for me that is super good, because before I knew I had celiac disease I would catch every little thing that was going around and not fully shake it for at least three months.  So this is exhausting and no fun, but I've been worse in the past and I survived.

I hope you are all in good health and only drinking tea for enjoyment these days.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Putting on a Brave Face

N and I will have been dating for a year in October, but he won't be here in October.  He'll be crab fishing in Alaska.  He's crab fished for 4 years total, but it's been 3 years since he's been on a boat.  He takes off for Alaska next week and that is way too soon!  I won't be able to talk to him while he's at sea.  And I'm not worried about him, but I am nervous.  There's a reason the show they made about crab fishing in Alaska is called The Deadliest Catch.  So I'll be missing him like crazy and it will be at least a month and a half before he's back.  I've never dealt with something like this before, but I know that he loves crab fishing so I'm putting on a brave face.  But on the inside I'm really nervous.